Am NOT
Saturday, March 01, 2008 by Nakeel
Recently have had a very ugly experience with lots of people and am not liking it at all and those that have taken that path know that am not taking it lightly. Few minutes ago it has happened making me do this post.
Who told Kenyans that the moment you have a baby you must be married. NO am NOT married and am thinking of wearing a banner on my back bearing that.
It all started when I resumed work a certain man in the office walks up to me and says hi then proceeds to ask how is baby and husband. The look was enough. My answer baby is OK husband am not married.
He goes on to dig for more and I give him the look of get this in your head if you looking for gossip from my end start walking or drop down dead just like the Sumo star told photographers.
Then I was at a place where we meet almost all of us. Everyone how is baby and husband. Get this in your heads you Ngomongos(Mocha 07). Am not married then one goes ahead to tell me that when you give birth you supposed to stay with baby daddy or marry immediately.
No that's not me spare that advise for your sister because am not and next time weigh your advises because its crap.
Getting married will be my decision if I feel we can cohabit with baby daddy then well I will move but as far as I know getting a baby doesn't mean that you have to lower yourself that down that you can't have a comfortable life on your own.
Yes I do tell people am a proud mother of a gorgeous boy. The rest is what I want no one will push me.
Since this is a rant post yesterday I was in ma3 next to me was a very snoopy grown man. When I opened my handbag getting something he was stretching his neck to see whats inside. When I was texting he was busy popping his eyes to see what I was writing. Trust me I can kick you anytime. I asked him whats wrong with my things that his eyes could not get off them. He shied I warned him that next time never peep at women bags lest you loose your eyesight or get pepper spray in them too.
Who told Kenyans that the moment you have a baby you must be married. NO am NOT married and am thinking of wearing a banner on my back bearing that.
It all started when I resumed work a certain man in the office walks up to me and says hi then proceeds to ask how is baby and husband. The look was enough. My answer baby is OK husband am not married.
He goes on to dig for more and I give him the look of get this in your head if you looking for gossip from my end start walking or drop down dead just like the Sumo star told photographers.
Then I was at a place where we meet almost all of us. Everyone how is baby and husband. Get this in your heads you Ngomongos(Mocha 07). Am not married then one goes ahead to tell me that when you give birth you supposed to stay with baby daddy or marry immediately.
No that's not me spare that advise for your sister because am not and next time weigh your advises because its crap.
Getting married will be my decision if I feel we can cohabit with baby daddy then well I will move but as far as I know getting a baby doesn't mean that you have to lower yourself that down that you can't have a comfortable life on your own.
Yes I do tell people am a proud mother of a gorgeous boy. The rest is what I want no one will push me.
Since this is a rant post yesterday I was in ma3 next to me was a very snoopy grown man. When I opened my handbag getting something he was stretching his neck to see whats inside. When I was texting he was busy popping his eyes to see what I was writing. Trust me I can kick you anytime. I asked him whats wrong with my things that his eyes could not get off them. He shied I warned him that next time never peep at women bags lest you loose your eyesight or get pepper spray in them too.
Just do what is right for you and my SIL hebu they leave you alone!
Haiya you were mean to that old man, he just wanted a peek ! ha ha ha
Dada'ngu, wakerekao na wakereke, au sio?
@Akiey, what was that? LOL nione kando for a 'user friendly translation' :)
@Nakeel, You do not need me to tell you that you are fab the way you are - and/or including TADS - take it from me.
PS: Cutified little human is in your neck of the woods- I am auditioning for Aunties :)
guessaurus
congratulations on the baby, Nakeel!
Don't listen to the people who are trying to make you live your life according to their rules and values. I know you are wonderful mum and that's all that matters right now.
Take care and lots of love.
@HnH I hear you. Ati a peek in my bag wacha wewe..
@No 1 Exactly that.
@Guess My application forwarded including ten referees.. Thanks dear.
@Auntie Thanks a bunch.
People still think like that! 80% percent of the chicks I know are proud mothers and not married.
Hope you know how to raise one eyebrow, that usually works wonders in putting snoopy peeps in there place!
Sad that some people are still stuck in prehistoric times. You are stronger and braver than most of us and am proud of you the rest can bounce.
why oh why didn't you look at that man and then ask him, "have you seen what you were looking for in there?"
You are who you are NOT what people tell you - you are.
@Kafai True that and yes I know how to raise the eyebrows and turn the yes swiftly.
@Auntie Richie Thanks mamie.
@DIL |Next time will apply that. I hear you.
when guys ask me how's 'wife' i say, "sijui but nikipata nitakuambia"..
and that doba in the mat you know what you should do, when you discover a guy is chunguliaring your text, you address it to them..."stop reading my texts, thank you"
and i agree with gish.
Mammi. Congratulations! Children are a blessing.
Don't pay too much mind to idlers. Like we were told in primary school, an idle mind is the devil's workshop.
Simply hate that mentality Kenyans seem to have. Then they assume that its their God given right to enquire about the husband just so that they can have something to gossip about.
Like you blog by the way.
So, how is the baby and the mother?
Awwww Sweetie,
No, having a baby does not mean that you should marry. Heck, I know from experience. I can't offer any advice, but I do understand how you feel. I only say to you...pray, and do what you know is best to do.
**Kisses**
Ama these people just wanted to hear you say you are not married then they throw arrows?
There you go Lil Sis, chin up. Got your back, usisahau:)
@ Guess, lol! No prob, nitakuona kando nikupe tafsiri kamili. How's the cold in Beantown? Must suck to be on the east coast this time of year, huh?
long time since i was hia...Nakeel...seems us till getting them hits from random searches like hw i landed hia first. love the template.
Never got round to congratulating you on Baby! :), looking forward to reading his blog :-D.
Small minds. I have heard the same experience, it doesn't get any better with the public and strangers. Wait until your choices for your child are questioned, and those of your "husband" are sought after.
You are going about it the right way, and have a strong support network so you'll be aiight.
First of all, congratulations on your baby!
Props to you on standing your ground, people love gossip too much and meddling in things that don't concern them. I wonder if a person's life can be that boring...until they want to read your txts and look in your bag!